So You’re EngaygedPosted: December 2, 2011
This blog, co-founded by two ladies who while planning their own seperate weddings, realized that there needed to be a blog for the LGBT community supporting couples in the weddling planning process. With gay marraige being a socially and culturally current topic, the blog here is very emotional, passionate and a little more heavy than the other two I am following. For these reasons, there is a disclamer within the “about” section listing the policy about comments:
Another interesting thing with this blog is that the co-founders do not do all the writing, in fact they do very little. Real life couples are able to apply and blog about their wedding process, and if chosen, blog for about 8 months. While the authors do post many photos from real weddings, the in depth discussion about wedding planning/ideas comes from actual real life couples. This makes each wedding story very personal, as the blogger is reflecting on their actual ceremony. During the semester, I closely followed Michael’s story, who married David this past September in NY. Michael starting blogging for the site this past Marched after being “accepted” by the founders. He first posted about how he and David met, sharing details and little stories that made me feel as if I was their best friend. Since the first post, Michael has been very open- sharing all his thoughts and details on his wedding planning process. With actual couples blogging here, everything is much personal, which the viewers respond to and interact with on a higher level. Unlike the “OMG I’m Getting Married” blog, here Michael responds to viewers comments, and there is a greater sense of community and bond within this site.
When blogging about whether or not to include traditional wedding elements, Michael asks “from all the weddings you have gone to, which one really sticks out in your memory and why?” to which readers respond to. This type of direct interaction did not happen in the other wedding blogs.
Another personal and highly emotional blog was when Michael disscusses his joy about the Marriage Equality Bill passing in NY. However, he goes on to explain his frusteration that only now his friends and family are taking the wedding seriously, making Michael question what they thought of the engagement and wedding prior to the legalization. He states in a blog, “talking about our wedding now taps into my fundamental fear that people did not consider our wedding real from the get-go. I don’t believe that to be true, I really think people just want to see us get legally married, but I am not going to lie and say it does not give me pause when some talk about it with more legitimate terminology”. At the end, many readers reacted and shared their own stories of going through the same troubles. Here, much unlike the other wedding blogs, people are able to relate via the internet and connect over the complex issues gay marriage presents.
The posts about the wedding day were also filled with personal stories, feelings, and jitters. Michael shared photos, explaining the space decor, bow ties, ceremony songs/readings, and personal touches he added to his special day.
Here too, the readers react emotionally to the post, and interact between each other. Michael also replies to viewers comments, although I am still waiting for my response!
Michael shared his partners creative idea of labeling the tables:
Overall, I am surprised at the level in which the blogger and the viewers connect here, given that they are complete strangers, who have never met! However, everyone can relate to a topic that is held special by all: ones wedding. It is amazing to see what the internet does for people, and the endless possibilities there are for people to connect within it.